A choice as impossibly bad as between telling you and simply deciding on my own and never breathing a word of it, I expect?

[ he'll just let his hands get squeezed all to hell. ]

I was advised recently that sharing a burden is better than attempting to carry it by myself, and I expect the same applies to all of us. I will not resent a no on this. It seems fairly obvious neither of you agree, and I don't want to make you feel as if you have compromised on something important.